Dating violence is physical, sexual, emotional or verbal mistreatment for the purpose of gaining control and power over another person.

You are not alone……

The basic dynamics of dating violence are the same in both rural and urban areas. One-fourth to one-half of all dating relationships in the U.S. involve violence.(Rue, 1989)

Women aged 16-25 are three times more likely to be raped than other women. Of adolescent rape victims, 92 percent know their assailants, and about two-thirds of assaults happen in dating situations. (CCASA Connection 7(3), 1997)

How is Your Relationship?
You are being Physically Abused if someone:

You are being EMOTIONALLY ABUSED if someone: You are being SEXUALLY ABUSED and/or harassed if someone:
A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
IS...
  • Having fun
  • Respect
  • Appreciating Differences
  • Responsibility
  • Pleasure
  • Caring
  • Honesty
  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Sharing
  • Negotiating
  • Closeness
  • Openness
  • Friendship
  • Strong feelings
  • Cooperation
ISN'T....
  • Feeling Bad
  • Being Called Names
  • Jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Pain
  • Violence
  • Selfishness
  • Obsession
  • Self-centeredness
  • Cruelty
  • Dependency
  • Sexual Irresponsibility
  • Intimidation
  • Fear
  • Proving Yourself
  • Manipulation
  • Threatening
Things to Consider….. You can protect yourself from date rape.
Guessing what another person wants without actually talking about it can lead to misunderstandings. You can learn what other people want:
If you are a girl:
  1. Set limits- Decide what you want. What are you willing to do physically? How far is far enough? What is too much?
  2. Talk to each other- Communication is the key to a good relationship. Tell your boyfriend what your limits are. Find out how he feels about your decision and what his wishes are.
  3. Be assertive- Say what you mean and continue to say it over and over again. Let your body give messages of strength, too. Move away when you are not comfortable. Stand tall. Talk as though what you are saying is very important.
  4. Trust your feelings- If your boyfriend is pushing you, don't let him continue. When you first get the feeling that things aren't okay, say something or do something to try to get out of the situation.
  5. Be aware of your boyfriend's actions- Pay attention to behavior that isn't respectful of you -- even simple things like he is trying to show you that he is stronger than you. It might seem like teasing, but it could also mean he is not going to listen to you at other times.
If you are a boy:
  1. Set limits. Decide what you want. What are you willing to do physically? How far is enough? What is too much? And remember, your girlfriend will be making these decisions too.
  2. Talk to each other. Communication is the key to a good relationship. Tell your girlfriend what your limits are. Find out how she feels about your decision and what her wishes are.
  3. Listen to your partner. If she says no -- no matter how quietly or shyly -- it still means no.
  4. Trust your feelings. Trust the very first messages your girlfriend gives you. She may be trying to let you know you have gone far enough -- that she wants to enjoy what you have experienced so far, but you have reached her limits.
  5. Be aware of your girlfriend's actions. Behavior that isn't respectful of another person is not okay. Your girlfriend has the right to determine what her limits are. Her body language can also tell you that she wants to stop.
What to do if you are worried about a relationship…
Tell someone you trust.You need to carefully consider whom you confide in when breaking off an unhealthy relationship.If you are concerned about your safety, a parent, trusted adult, school counselor or other teacher may be available to listen and help.

Remember it is not your fault. If you need someone to talk to or a referral to any services call our 24 hour number: (307) 684-2233 or the Wyoming Statewide HOTLINE - 1-800-990-3877

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